Is to grow

Nobody likes to be hurt and wounded. As sentient beings, with feelings, when we feel that we are hurt, we run to hide and we move away from everything or those that have hurt us. How many of us have not been, for a long time, hurt, resentful, keeping a memory of something that hurt us, the annoyance with someone who hurt us, the distance for someone who marked us with rejection, with ridicule or some painful experience .

When we leave, we do it or we justify ourselves thinking: this is not what God wants for my life, this is not what I deserve, it is not fair to be treated in this way, among other thoughts that may come. We learn to build walls of indifference clouded with pain and even bitterness, without realizing that we are being trapped within a feeling that sinks and overshadows us. Many times, we remain by the side of people who have hurt us, because we have not known or found how to get out, we raise the wall, but we do not have the ability to forgive, we only survive and exist, pretending that we live, although inside we are hurt and painful.

On other occasions I have mentioned that there are feelings that are difficult to handle, and this is definitely one of them. Because generally the wound makes us run to hide and leave our place. And today I have to tell you that running away and abandoning our position is not the right way out. A wound is going to be more or less damaging to our emotions, depending on how strong we are inside. Although it seems absurd what I am going to tell you, a well-managed wound will transform your life and make you become a stronger being, with greater maturity, to test the ups and downs and ups and downs that are going to happen in our life.

Running away from pain and facing the situation is precisely what will keep you vulnerable forever. But, how can we not flee if that is precisely what our soul screams? You cannot look at the wound as an act of injustice, because this would make you occupy the role of victim, and victimhood does not solve anything in life. To heal, you need to understand that it does not depend on what the other person does or how they behave, whether they have an act of repentance or not, forgive and heal depends on you and only on you. In the end you will understand that the pain will lead you to grow, if you allow it.

Having a feeling of pain initially, is normal. Wanting to keep it and hold on to it, is not. You have to let go to be free. Again, the answer is in how you think about the situation. I usually remember the boiling water anecdote. This is the story where, in a pot of boiling water, a carrot is introduced and it ends up in pieces, practically destroyed. In the same way an egg is laid, but on the contrary, it ends up hard, almost impenetrable, to find its interior you have to break and go deep. But in the same boiling water, coffee is introduced, and this, apart from taking the wrong texture or attitude, is capable of releasing its essence and aroma, giving the best of it.

So, we are the ones who decide how to work in each situation. You can let the situation destroy you, you can let the situation harden you and hide you, which makes you unable to receive anything from others, because you decide to lock yourself behind the wall. Or you can decide that this situation brings out the best in you. It all depends on how full you are, because in the end, everyone gives what they have inside.

A person who lives injured can only harm others in the same way that he or she is. But a person who has decided to be filled with forgiveness, which only comes from God, will be able to bring the same to others: forgiveness and God’s grace, because that is what he decided to take for its life. You can decide today what you do with the injury that someone may have caused you, regardless of the position that person occupies in your life. Control over your life, you are the only one who have it. The wound is like a gift that someone wants to give you, you decide if you take it or not.

King David, before becoming king, was wounded many times and even threatened with death by Saul, who after having loved him, hated him and despised him to death. David could have fled and even had the opportunity to kill him, but he didn’t. David knew of God’s love and mercy, and he filled himself with these to maintain his position. God himself was his justice and who led him to the promise he had placed on him.

Do you want justice for your case? I have news for you: “You are the righteousness of God in Christ.” Asking for justice is just looking outside without looking at you and everything that God has forgiven you and has let you pass. Let God operate as He knows how to do it. Assume the forgiveness of the same as Jesus who assumed it, even knowing that he paid unjustly for the sins of the world. He did not abandon the Father’s plan, he stayed in his place and demonstrated his capacity for love, maintaining the joy of knowing that he was fulfilling what he had been called to do.

Don’t let a wound mark your life, don’t take it, release it. Assume the forgiveness and mercy that Jesus assumed with you without your deserving it. Keep your page blank, and healing and peace will inevitably invade you. God will do what you cannot do and will know how to restore and strengthen each area of ​​your life and you will see yourself achieving the inexplicable, what others do not understand, because only through Jesus is it possible. Forgiveness to the other may not cost anything, but it did not cost you either and it was granted out of love. Enjoy his grace and his peace over you today.