As a child, I used to suffer from hemoglobin problems, and everyone who knows the symptoms of this, knows that one of them is a continuous tiredness. As an adult I no longer had the problem of hemoglobin but for some reason, I noticed for some time that I was living exhausted, it didn't matter if I was resting well or not. I always felt exhausted, drained, without strength. On one occasion I said to the Lord: I need to find the cause of this constant tiredness. Some days later I remember, in a glorious teaching of the house, my pastor taught us how to keep us from sharing or maintaining an incorrect attachment relationship. And, many times we do not know how to cut or release a relationship that loads us, takes away our energy, and demands us more than it gives us. But as we care for other people, many times to sorrow, we do not realize how this type of relationship drains and exhausts us, not only emotionally, but also physically. We can have incorrect and attachment relationships with a family member, with some friendship, with our partner, with a co-worker, with anyone, but we don't realize it. It is this type of relationship where you burden someone who does not grow or change their situation and does not let you grow or move on to you. There are people who, no matter how many resources they have, how much we advise them, how much we try to guide them to make different decisions, never want to change. They maintain a victim position in which everyone is guilty of their situations, except them. They blame the parents, the boss, the couple, the neighbor, even the dog. But they never take responsibility. And the saddest thing of all is that they cause in us this deep sorrow that makes us feel that if we leave them or let go, they have no one and no more resources. Today I want to tell you, what I discovered: I was the stone that did not allow the persont to make other decisions or change. I made decisions for the person. It was like a defense wall to cover it from any damage and I dared not release it because I thought it could make wrong decisions or that without me it would not know what to do. And I didn't realize how drained I was physically and mentally.
But when I could see my mistake and the damage it was doing, not only me, but also the other person, I had to let go. That definitely brought growth in both life. It was difficult, but totally necessary. Everything that weighs does not let you move forward, it does not allow you to grow.
Do not try to do the work that Jesus already did on the cross. The redemptive work was His. True love is firm, makes decisions to grow and not to destroy. Releasing someone to start making decisions does not mean you do not love him, because true love desires transformation and growth. It is not driven by grief ". Grief destroys.
I don't know who you have to release today. If you, like me, feel tired, drained, physically, mentally and emotionally, it's time to let go. Jesus is your rest and he is the only one who can lead those who charge you so much to make decisions for their lives and to be transformed within. Do not keep trying, be firm and fair with yourself and others. Sometimes we don't realize who else we may be destroying by having the wrong attachments in our life. To be full and complete, you only need Jesus, in Him is fullness. Don't load yourself anymore, remember that letting go is loving, even if it doesn't seem that way.