In control

In our human life experience, we are all going to experience emotions. We were created with them and experience them every day. Feeling joy, courage, frustration, pain, helplessness, gratitude, peace, hope, pride, wonder, love, among other things, is what tells you that you are alive. Like a heart monitor, which displays changes in the heart with rising and falling signals, it is what says there is life.

The interesting issue with emotions is when we lose control of them. Because even a positive emotion that you don’t take control of, can cause problems. So it is important to meditate on something I learned some time ago and it contributed a lot to my life. Today I share it with you. It’s called the 90-10 rule. This rule teaches us that 10% percent of life is related to what happens to us. The other 90% is related to what we do with what happens to us (reaction). Of the 10% we have no control, but of the other 90% we are responsible.

In the morning, on the way to work, a rubber may be emptied from my car. How I handle that, and how I allow that to affect my life, is up to me. This situation could turn out to be one more event, which I can overcome as soon as I have the solution to it, or it could be an event that ruins my whole day. But it is important that you know that the decision is made by you. Someone might have a difference with you, a child, a coworker, your partner. In the same way, it could be one more situation, overcome, or you decide to turn it into the situation that ruins your day. Many people live with ruined life, I do not know if you know someone like that.

Where I want to take you is, to understand that, you can keep control of your emotions or allow them to take control of you. It’s about deciding who takes control of your life: emotion, based on each circumstance you live in or your ability to manage and control, even when you can’t solve the situation at all. You are responsible for yourself, what you feel, what you express, what you say. The fault is not with the situation, or the person with whom you had a bad time. It is you who decides whether or not to pass control of your life. Remember that allowing your emotions to dominate you and reacting based on them, is to let go of control. So then you can’t complain about the result, you allowed it.

God designed you with the capacity of dominion, control, maturity over each situation. But you need to be able to see yourself in control of every situation. Remember that what is inside you is what is going to be exposed in the moment of difficulty. From the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. And the rest is to tell you that the outcome of the situation will follow. So, in order to give the right thing, you must be full of the right thing. It means that you need to fill yourself with what Jesus is, it is the only way that you can overcome any circumstance, however hard and difficult it may seem. I don’t know how you can see yourself, but in heaven they saw you winning. Can you see it? I know you can. This will be your best day, whatever happens. It’s your decision. God’s grace on your life.